Author: debutont

Somehow, somewhere, someway.

We choose not what life brings to us,

We do however choose, what we bring to life,

In attitude & in our willingness to work hard for the things we believe in.

A good life experience is taken by choice.

To thrive, I must strive to achieve more for myself and for my life everyday, then I did the day before.

Always reaching a little higher than I think I can.

I will climb this mountain, knowing that there is another one on the other side.

Knowing & accepting that life will always have struggles, makes me willing to accept any fate that I am given.

Believing that it is always for The greater good. My fate is a blessing.

Through love, through life, alone or with others,

I will get up & live to fight another day.

Debbie Smalley (Deb’e)

Dwayne Johnson- Your Welcome

Good matter, bad matter;

Positive, negative;

The Yin and the Yang;

We must live with balance, in our lives;

We can choose to balance the good or balance the bad;

In the end, they are both always there;

It is up to us to decide what side of the scale, we are going to focus on;

There will always be negative or positive people & experiences, floating around us in life. It is up to each one of us, as individuals to decide which ones, we are going to focus on. Which experience we are going to feed & how we will let it effect us.

The good, the bad;

The happy, the sad;

The light, The dark;

We create our own moments, our own memories and our own life experiences;

We all have a choice;

I will choose to be happy; in all moments, with all things, for all the world & for myself. I will focus on, the good things.

I will give back to the world, the love, the understanding and the forgiveness, that I wish for myself. I will be the kind of person, I wish for others to be, to me. Not because I am better, but because that is the world I want to live in. That is the world I want to see. This is who, I want to be.

I am in control of my own experience in life. It’s mine & it is amazing & there is always enough for everyone.

You get what you project. Choose your day!!!

Get up and reach!!! Your not dead yet?

Talking To the Moon- Bruno Mars

Each time I move through fear instead away from it, I become more aware of what fear is to me.

Fear & lazy seems to hangout together in the same field. I have had many times in my life that, I was afraid of trying and other times, when I just didn’t feel like trying. The benefits, did not outweigh the effort, so I didn’t want to try. There was nothing in it for me. Emotionally physically or financially. My heart felt no purpose.

I read once that if you really want something. You will find away. If you really don’t, you will find an excuse. For me, this is sooo true.

It is up to each of us to determine how much we want something. Then determine how much energy & effort we are willing to put into it, in order to make it happen.

I think this could be applied to pretty much every situation in life. Family, relationships, careers or dreams. If your not willing to give 100%, then don’t do it. Wait~~~Wait~~~~Wait~~~~~~~ to Find your passion. When you do, it will burn like a fire, & pull at your heart. You will Dream it, feel it, believe in it, see it; It will grab your very soul. You will be willing to work harder than you have ever worked before & every sacrifice will feel like a gift.

You will walk through fear by faith and know it is where you are suppose to be. All exhausting efforts, will seems minimal, because the very existence of what you are doing, feeds your spirit like and endless stream. You are were you are suppose to be. Fear no longer stops you. You are stronger than the fight & no mountain seems too high.

Find your love of life, reach & climb.. Don’t give up on the things you are afraid of. Walk through the fire that burns you and know you are never alone, as long as you have faith and the willingness to dream.

Get up!!!! Get out!!! and reach!!! You still have time for one more ride!!! Your not dead yet!

Debbie Smalley (Deb’e)

Everything I do each day moves me closer & closer to achieving something amazing, for myself and for my family.

Victories taste sooo sweet when you hit that goal. I am learning to aim higher than I ever thought I could reach. The Things that seemed impossible 2 years ago are now within my reach. I know that I can do, whatever I put my mind to.

In my past life, when job and career were not enough to sustain me into my retirement. I was constantly searching my mind, for a financial solution. It was a heavy weight to carry. Had I really worked for 28 years, to come out at the end, with no retirement or strength to carry me through, to my golden years.

Everyone was complaining that Uncle Sam kept moving the age of retirement. I was just blond enough to secretly be grateful. I thought “Thank God!!! Now I have a few more years to get ahead.” It was like being given an extension on a deadline. Literally… get it??? DEAD line… Lol

So in the back of my mind, there was a spining wheel, constantly moving & thinking looking for a solution. Was there a job that would support me physically and spiritually. I needed a life that would take care of me, when I could no longer take care of myself. I needed to build something so strong and beautiful, that no one could ever take it from me, nor would they want to.

In my dream, for a different life. There would always be room for growth, for people, for TRAVELING, for anything. I had a vision of freedom, both financially and physically.

I wanted a peaceful place in life & a happy heart to guide me through it. I dreamed it, I breathed it, painted it, believed in it & I prayed & prayed, for years, for it. I never gave up on the thought!!! I could feel life pulling at me to keep searching , keep looking, keep reaching for the unknown.

I believe everyone has a purpose, I believe God surrounds us all and gives us the desire to drive down the unknown road, to follow by faith alone, to overcome fear; knowing, feeling, seeing, that your life, my life, his life, her life, all play some intricate roll in the world. We must all follow our own truths in life.

Learn to listen to the soul,,, It will tell you what to do, if your patient enough to listen & willing to work, for love and life.

Never quite searching for the answers to your life; I believe, Its the path less traveled, that reveals itself only to those, who are willing to walk it.

Debbie Smalley (Deb’e)

If no one is around to tell you, you can’t.

You just might find, all the things, that you can!

Think for yourself. Be yourself, Love yourself, & others. Suddenly you might find that you are that person or have that life you wished for.

Live your life & love your life… Discover the beauty, that is you… stop worrying about everyone else’s views. It is so freeing, to just be, whoever it is that you want to be.

Don’t go looking for others to validate your worth. If you live your life, loving who you are and being who you are. Then when you find that person who loves YOU, you won’t have to compromise yourself, into a pretzel, to make them happy.

We are beautiful just the way we are!!! Just smile and be grateful to be alive in this conscious world. Embrace each day with love & be blessed by life. Then someday, someone will feel blessed, to have you.

Debbie Smalley (Deb’e)

Jim Croce: Time in a Bottle

When you don’t have a lot of money to build your dreams. It doesn’t mean you can’t have them. It just means you will have to work harder, compromise more & sacrifice the luxuries, to get there. You have to think outside the box & in my case, You might even have to be willing to live in one. 🙂

I am ready.. I have mentally prepared myself for a camping adventure. I also have to put things into perspective. I really am not sacrificing too much, to meet my next goal.

My biggest sacrifice is, I am now giving up, almost the last square footage in my home to my dream. I have found a way, to keep full access to my kitchen & my laundry room, which are very important to me. But my bedroom/ living room will soon be my garage, which has already been converted and is half renovated, with its own private entrance. My biggest and funniest sacrifice, is I will be giving up my access to all the bathrooms, in my home. Well partially.

I say “Calm down”, to all the crusaders of comfort, who think I am crazy. I have thought this threw. I can take showers in the bathrooms at my house, In between guests checking in and checking out. I can also shower at work & at any of my many friendly neighbors, whom are on board with my adventure and support me 100%. Even though they think I am crazy. Lol

I have great plans to make the fanciest camping bathroom, you have ever seen. It will be located In the storage area of the garage. When it is finally revealed… You will be happily surprised to see how amazing it is.

I will be giving up my bed, one more time & will be temporarily back on the couch, that will be hauled out to the garage to make room for the little airbnb suite. Though I will miss my new bed, I am ok with this sacrifice. It will be completely worth it. It’s actually the most comfortable couch & with every night That passes, I will be one night closer to achieving my 2nd financial goal. That makes me smile.

In the next few of weeks, I will be boxing in the living room and creating my second airbnb. I won’t lie and tell you that I’m not a little nervous. It’s a big jump, but it’s the step I need to take, to build my dream and make my property pay for itself as well as my life. I can no longer be attached, to the square footage of my house. I must stop thinking of it as, only my home. I am building a business & home for many. I am creating a relaxing environment for my guests and more opportunities for them to come stay at my place. What a an amazing thing, to be able to do.

It’s a big dream. I envision 5 rentable places that are all interconnected with locking doors. My guests will be able to rent one or all five, whatever they need.

I just need to push up my sleeves and get ready to push this train up the tracks, a little further. I expect the unexpected & know that because the city, may not completely agree with my dreams, I might have to compromise. But, I believe that everything that is suppose to happen will. If it’s meant to be, the barriers in life, will just magically move out of the way, as I reach them. If it’s not suppose to happen, then I will make another road, that takes me on the scenic route.

I am hoping, this stage of renovation is a little, physically, easier on me. The last year about killed me. Lol

The last couple of months, I have been in a work for food trade, with the neighborhood handy man. He has agreed to help me with some of my jobs, if I would share the food I cook. When I cook. He hates fast food & loves my cooking. I of course jumped on that deal & have been throwing plates of food at him ever since. Eat up!!! I need a wall built. 🙂

“Thankyou Granny for all the years you let me help you in the kitchen”.. They are finally paying off.

As if this deal wasn’t a miracle in itself. He now has a girlfriend, who helps him with his jobs, while running her own business, cleaning and managing airbnb properties. (Lucky me). She also loves my cooking & our food trade arrangement so much, that she wants to participate. All I have to do, is send over an extra plate and she will help with my renovations & manage / clean my places, when I go out of town. What a blessing!!!

At this point I have decided, my cooking can be a commodity trade.

I decided I need to up the game & Agree to feed the world, for building & food supplies. Just bring me a 2×4, a piece of sheet rock, a box of texture, a window, a slider door, a freezer of meat. what do you have?? Maybe you have a service you want to trade….I’ll feed you meal, let’s make a deal… Lol. Unless your picky, then you can cook your own dang meals. 🙂 Ain’t no one got time for that.

It never hurts, to dream up inventive ways to trade services for goods. It’s tax free and generally rewarding to multiple parties. I love money!!! I would love to line my pockets in it & someday I will.

But happiness comes first in my book. I can’t let my lack of finances stop me from being happy or reaching for greater things in life.. I don’t believe I have to be the richest, to be the greatest. I can have the greatest success in life, by working hard & never giving up on the idea, that I can have better things and bigger dreams, if I am willing to reach for them.

if you have dreams, you need to speak them out loud. Say it!! Tell the world what you want.

I mentioned a food trade as a joke & now I have 2 people who think it’s the best idea ever.

Seriously…. I joked about it on a post a few weeks before. My 2 neighbors, did not read it, nor did they know I said it. But, because I put the energy out there & I fed my handyman, while he worked and sent food over when I had extra. ( because that’s just what I do.)

He then said, “I will give you hours in labor, if you keep sending me food. ”

I didn’t ask, I just sent the energy & it just happened.

Speak & pray your heart out loud & let it be heard. Say what you want out of life & take action to get it. Don’t be lazy… If it’s suppose to happen, it will come to you. Say it and Pray it!!! Then be willing to work your ass off, to get it.

Don’t give up!!! Keep trying,,, Keep believing,, See it,,, Dream it,,, live it…everyday!!!

Get up and Reach!!! You aren’t dead yet!!!

Debbie Smalley (Deb’e)