Author: debutont

Just a woman in search of self. Looking for meaning, direction & personal growth. Living each moment as if it were the last. Conquering fears & slaying dragons as I climb my own mountain, on my terms & forge my own path to create a life worth living. I created my blog hoping others will join me on my journey & forge their own path to pursue their lives & reach for dreams. The worlds a better place for those who have a dream.

The Little Moments

It’s always the little moments that stop us in our tracks and interrupt “our” plans. We all have our own preconceived ideas about how we expect something to go. Whatever it may be

Then life comes along and surprises us with something completely different. As I’ve grown older and hopefully wiser, I have tried, very hard, to condition myself to just go with the flow, to make a quick, mental, attitude adjustment, before I opened my mouth. I had to believe that every situation happened for a reason. Whether it’s good or bad. Whether it’s in business, in life, or even in love. I believe in faith, destiny, choice & in the power of a positive attitude to steer any situation to a good place. Thankfully, as life happened, I began to realize that it was those unexpected moments, those interruptions, that have lead me to the most amazing opportunities for growth.

The people, the places, the moments I spent being detoured, were precious minutes spent, often loving, learning and enjoying life’s surprises.

I remember times when I was younger. The unexpected interruption of my plans or ideas, would not have been as easy to deal with. I would of felt as though I somehow failed because things did not go the way I planned.

I know that is not true. I can do everything right and still have something or someone redirect my plans. Life happens, people happen, situations always come up that often change the time line.

I have recently decided, I love to be surprised by life. It has always been those surprises, that turned into the greatest memories of my life. I work hard to stay focused, while building my business & creating a new life.

It’s during these times I must leave room for interruptions. I must be open & flexible to taking the unexpected detour. It is the spice, that adds flavor to every moment in your life.

CAUTION SIGN UP, DETOUR AHEAD!!!

This weekend I found 12×12 tiles at Home Depot for .29 each!!! ☀️That about $3 for 11 sq. Ft. This is a crazy, crazy price!!! That lead of course, lead to a crazy, crazy action.

Hey!!! No judgement, opportunity knocks once, then he goes to someone else’s door. SO!!! Fasten your seatbelts, we are about to take a little detour!!!”

As with most of my construction detours. I am in the middle of a few mixed feelings. This is because, I am also the one doing all the work.

So, I am 2 days & 16 ibuprofen into, my unexpected project. 😩 My body is not happy with my decision. But I am soooo excited to see it when it’s done. It looks like I will be delaying the opening of my airbnb suite. But it is going to be sooo worth it when it’s done.

I have already disassembled my shower, pulled the shower walls, removed damaged Sheetrock & replaced it.

I am happy to say, I am now the proud owner, of a body full of soar muscles a slightly bashed knee, 1 bruised ego, 1/2 a finished shower & a great story, about fly off the tub, with a 3 inch piece of Sheetrock in my hand. 😂

Sometimes you have to be willing to roll up your sleeves and work for your dreams!!!

Let go and live!!! Be happily distracted as you move through life. GET UP and reach!!!

Debbie Smalley (Deb’e)

Don’t Be Distracted

Some days, life around me tries to detour me from my goals. My peaceful mindset is disrupted with dramas that threaten to disrupt my flow.

As I get closer to the end of meeting, my October deadline. I have to remind myself to just stay focused, look to the future, keep making steps forward no matter how trivial they seem. Breath, smile, look for the sun rise & when life tries to distract you, don’t waste time dwelling on it.

Just shut up and swim!!!

Debbie Smalley (Deb’e)

Stop Waiting

Some will go there whole life wishing for things to be different;

Some will wait, for things to be perfect, before there willing to move forward & try.

I have ran down the middle of the road my whole life. I had to learn to maneuver & overlook the flaws. I refused to commit to any side.

I never had the benefits of a perfect life or the perfect circumstance.

I had to accept that good enough was better than nothing & so it was.

If my life was going to be happy, I had to look at the haveS, over the have nots;

I had a choice to let negative circumstances dictate my existence or move past them, through them and rise above them.

Life is often unfair. It would be easy to dwell, become weak or sink to the bottom and accept that this was where I was suppose to be.

I had to fight everyday to become something more, something to be proud of, something special. It was and is my own personal battle.

We all have our secret struggles, our scars, our Nemesis our imperfections in life, that try to hold us back.

We shouldn’t stop personal growth, because we can’t be perfect. The perfect life is just an illusion, we must embrace the life we have been given. Appreciating what we have & relishing the moments we have left, to live them. Time is such a rare commodity. Don’t waste it waiting.

Even though I may be tired, I shall never stop reaching to become something more. Not because I want to be perfect, but because I want to be the best version of myself.

It’s never to late to try, stop waiting for the perfect life, get up and reach!!!

Debbie Smalley (Deb’e)