When you have made big plans for life or your future.
Being insightful can be an amazing thing. It can save your life & help you be prepared for the future. It can also be one of the biggest reasons for failure.
For-thought Is often the reason people don’t try new things or follow their desires in life. They hesitate to start new careers, pursue relationships or reach for something great.
We are trained to fear failure. We are afraid to be let down. We want avoid the pain of a broken heart or the bruising of our ego. We don’t want anyone as a witness, as we fall on our face.
No one wants to be seen dieing before the world. A withered version of ourselves, something, less than amazing. So we leave, quit or don’t even try. We might even convince ourselves it’s better for everyone, if I just walk away & sit it this one out.
For-site, can destroy everything we have or it can lift an empire & build a world.
Everyday, I have to decide how I will let it effect me. Each time I am faced with it . I have to ask myself,
Am I making a mountain, out of a molehill?
Have I imagined a problem so big in my mind, that it’s going to make me quit. everything, every time, before I even try??
Am I going to miss out, on the most amazing thing I ever had, because I was afraid, I might fail or look bad?
In the past I might of answered yes to those questions. My freedoms in life, seemed limited. I had a family counting on me. Risking it all, to chase a dream seemed to risky. I often used them as an excuse not to try.
Now, that they are all grown up, it doesn’t matter as much. If I fail, I fail myself & no one else. I have no excuses, no reasons to quit.
It’s now time to commit myself to something, more. It’s time to stop worrying about things I can’t control.
I have to go to the city and apply for building permits, so I can add on 2 more bathrooms. I am so afraid of what I don’t know. I’ve been building my place, with advice from friends, in the industry, but I worry. What if the city gets mad at me, because I put in a couple of doors in my hallway, without asking or because I added a wall, without a permit. It wasn’t a structural change, so I am told it doesn’t matter. BUT,,, what if they were wrong???
I am afraid that, by trying to do things right, I might not get to do them at all. I am soooo afraid of the what if’s, that it’s holding me back and slowing my progress.
I know I just need to do it. It’s time to stand up! Face the storm with my hands in the air and pray;
“When the lightning strikes the sand, please let it transform this situation, into something great.”
And since I’m praying, Please let me make a few friends down at the city. I need some cheerleaders down there.
Debbie Smalley ( Deb’e)
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